tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117005533318160902.post6379377348051365597..comments2024-03-16T01:36:08.820-06:00Comments on growing changing learning creating: Underlying relationship problemsTom Haskinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12658791778134826289noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117005533318160902.post-76820157251813908732007-05-16T19:50:00.000-06:002007-05-16T19:50:00.000-06:00Herman, thanks for this fascinating data about sel...Herman, thanks for this fascinating data about self ranking our relationship abilities.<BR/><BR/>There is an obvious connection between over-rating any abilities and widespread problems. People are contributing to problems without realizing it. They cannot critique their efforts or their effects on a situation. The over-rating oneself compensates for insecurities and inferiority that seem to be "facts of life". They are devastated by accurate assessments, corrective feedback or realizations of lesser abilities.<BR/><BR/>There is a more subtle connection between over-rating our relationship abilities and other problems. With too much confidence, we won't make enough effort to listen to, learn from, and care for others. We think we are "more than good enough" already and don't need to make the effort to really relate. This leads to misunderstandings, distance, hurt feelings and skewed perceptions which play out as many different kinds of problems.Tom Haskinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12658791778134826289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117005533318160902.post-52018692430626608502007-05-16T14:09:00.000-06:002007-05-16T14:09:00.000-06:00In a psychological study I once read about, a rand...In a psychological study I once read about, a random sample of male adults were asked to rank themselves on “the ability to get along with others” - relationships. All the subjects put themselves in the top half of the population. Sixty per cent rated themselves in the top 10 percent of the population, and a full 25 percent ever so humbly thought they were in the top 1 percent of the population. Could this line of reasoning be the reason why we are having a ton of problems in society today?Hermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08452409192744584751noreply@blogger.com