tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117005533318160902.post6127392059310062060..comments2024-03-27T19:53:53.708-06:00Comments on growing changing learning creating: Taking things too personallyTom Haskinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12658791778134826289noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117005533318160902.post-3625806137784418102009-05-13T06:22:00.000-06:002009-05-13T06:22:00.000-06:00thanks for a great example of how this plays out i...thanks for a great example of how this plays out in a relationship. there's more to these reactions than meets the eye. it's very likely that she's saying that her temper is a sign of her taking things too personally just like she accuses you of being. when she says "you take things too personally", she might be hoping you'll understand her, stick around and not be put off by her temper. likewise, saying "you take things too personally" frames the two of you as "in the same boat", belonging together or "on the same page". when you provide evidence of not understanding how she is taking things too personally, she would then see the need to protect you from her temper by closing off from you. when her closing off disturbs you or drives you crazy, makes you want reluctant to be with her, she may be secretly delighted that you're not that different from her and perfectly content to live with the present misunderstanding between you. cheers!Tom Haskinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12658791778134826289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117005533318160902.post-17825027182667543602009-05-12T23:36:00.000-06:002009-05-12T23:36:00.000-06:00she has a temper and reacts by closing off to me a...she has a temper and reacts by closing off to me and it drives me crazy, i tell her that her behaviour disturbs me and all she says is i take it too personally, i am reluctant to be around her because of itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com