Once we've gotten the hang of working with others:
- It feels like we've moved onto a level playing field where we see "eye to eye"
- It brings out our better nature where we feel like being kind, considerate and compassionate.
- It shows us areas where we've taken our uniqueness for granted until we perceive how we differ from other contributors
- It teaches us about other ways to perceive the shared situation and common objectives
- It changes our story about our past as we act differently than before and find freedoms to be more of who we really are
- It revises definitions of problems we've endured by getting help from others who've outgrown them, see them differently or bring other resources to the issue
- It updates our goals, objectives and plans with better ideas about the differences we can make and the satisfactions we can co-create
- It transforms the ground we're standing on from shaky grounds that maintain our insecurities to common ground where our confidence builds naturally
- It grows our ability to understand others, empathize with their feelings and share their experiences with fascination
- It allows sacred cows, hot button issues and guilt trips to come to light where they can be regarded as developmental experiences
- It frames mistakes as essential to learn from, part of the collaborative process and necessary to refine shared intentions
- It provides us with high quality feedback from people who truly get: what we're trying to do, where we're coming from and what impact we want to have
- It helps us discover what we want to learn next, how our intrinsic motivation is changing direction and where our own curiosity is leading us
- It makes learning seem far more serendipitous, unforeseen and flowing from one good thing to another
- It confirms our suspicions that we really do want to help others, to contribute to their projects and to make the world the a better place
Once we grasp this extensive "benefit package" from our own personal experiences with collaborating, it's tough to go back to working for, against or without others.