- we can manipulate others' impression of a situation to turn it around in our favor
- we can control other people with their own neediness and insecurities
- we can dominate others who appear tentative and directionless
- we can put down others in order to get them to rely on our evaluations instead of theirs
- we can find fault with others to make them feel guilty, apologetic or desperate for approval
- we can intimidate others who appear uppity and out of control by reminding them who's more powerful
- we can correct others who appear wrong, bad, stupid or sadly mistaken
When we can see how others are predictable and recognize these toxic patterns, our minds are functioning organically. Our ability to formulate accurate predictions about others in mechanistic mindsets makes us unpredictable to them and ourselves. Our minds are living systems that are continually evolving. We are always in the process of changing our own predictions of what will work for us and what will make a difference to others in our lives. It's anybody's guess what we'll be exploring or how we'll be changing next.