Non-judgmental awareness

How can the right brain function without being judgmental?
There's a difference between being discerning and judgmental. We can tell the difference between two things without making one of them wrong, worse or rejected. The right brain sees both sides of an issue, the value in the contrasting conditions and the purpose in the differences. It discerns the difference without excluding parts of the whole system.

How can both sides be good when one side is obviously bad?
Things seem really bad to the left brain because it deals with facts objectively. Things are in process, parts of wholes or essential to outcomes from the right brain's perspective. Good comes from bad or is the other side of the good face on the coin. It takes both good and bad to recognize good, appreciate good, or value the effort to make more good happen. See that calls for reading between the lines, inferring a depth of insight or relying on subjective awareness.

What effects does non-judgmental awareness have on situations?
It can send a message to accept what's happened and let go of guilt about it. It can put people's minds at ease by seeing the good that comes out of the bad. Non-judgmental awareness can give people permission to follow their intuition and seek the guidance of their right brain also.

How can we change from being extremely judgmental to non-judgmental?
We're naturally very judgmental, intolerant and opinionated against something that frightens us. We perceive it as dangerous in any number of ways: making us look bad, tempting us to indulge a dark urge, inviting us to join in wicked intentions or setting us up to lose self-respect and others' admiration. We become non-judgmental by handling the danger in some other way: healthy boundaries, increased self-confidence, freedom from needing other's approval, reliance on inner guidance or insights into the evidence of apparent danger.

Do non-judgmental people revert to being judgmental?
Yes indeed! Anytime we feel startled, threatened or trapped, our judgmental cognitive resources get activated. There's no time to meditate on the situation, reflect on what we're being shown or regard the details from a detached perspective. We are hard wired to immediately react to "stranger danger" and abandon our non-judgmental awareness for the time being.

What could be done to nurture more people's non-judgmental awareness?
It helps to anticipate what will happen as a fascinating mystery or unexpected outcome, rather than a foregone conclusion. Sometimes we can create a supportive context by wondering "how this is good?" rather than "is it good? or "how good is it?". Non-judgmental awareness is also nurtured by others' immersive innocence, where the left brain is suspending it's judgment to receive what it needs from the right brain.


  1. Tom,

    Very much enjoying the series. It' a wonderfully rational approach to our irrationality:-) !

  2. What an emotionally intelligent thing to say :-)

    Thanks Steve!